How the Logic of "Friendzoning" Would Work If Applied in Other Instances:
*Man walks into a store and finds employee*
Man:Alright, I've had enough. Why haven't you guys hired me?!
Employee:Uh...well sir, when did you put in your application?
Man:I never filled out an application.
Employee:Well sir, we can't consider you for employment if you've never filled out an application.
Man:No, that's bullshit, because I've been coming here for years now, and every single time I tell you all how much I love this store and how much I appreciate your customer service, unlike some of your other customers might I add!
Employee:Well, but that doesn't-
Man:AND I even told you that I didn't have a job!
Employee:But sir, that doesn't indicate to us that you would like a job at our store. And again, if you've never filled out an application, we can't consider you. Besides, we're not hiring.
Man:OH! Not hiring, HA! What a laugh. I see your store go through seasonal workers all the time. They come and go like nothing, but you won't consider me as a part-time employee even though I KNOW you've been looking for workers to fill positions? That's insane!
Employee:Sir, we've been looking to hire a few people for management positions. Do you have any management experience?
Man:Well no, but what does that matter?
Employee:...Well sir, that's what we're looking for. You won't be suitable for the position without management experience.
Man:Oh that's such a load of crap. You know, you'll be waiting around a long time for a manager if you don't lower your standards a little. Who cares if someone knows how to manage a store? I LOVE this store and I'm willing to work here, that's all that should matter to you.
Employee:That...doesn't make any sense.
Man:NO! I'm done. This is over. From now on, no more Mr. Nice Guy.
I’ve been thinking about the rape culture in our country. We all know the blame is usually placed on the victims rather than the perpetrators of the crime; and we have a tendency to charge women to prevent rape from happening to them.
Now, I’m all about women being in charge of their own destiny. I support a woman knowing that if someone tries to rape her that it’s not her fault regardless of whether she put herself in a vulnerable situation. A woman should also know that if someone attempts to rape her, she has every right to destroy that bastard; and she doesn’t necessarily need to rely on pepper-spray, guns, or another man to destroy that would-be-rapist. But that’s not how we charge women to protect themselves. We tell them not to go out alone at night, not to get apartments on the first floor or leave their windows open, to watch what they wear, what they say, wear they go, etc. And this isn’t empowering women; it’s repressing us.
Let’s take the example of “don’t go out alone at night.” Now before you argue that it’s common sense for women to travel in packs, let’s remember we never make that argument for men. Why? Because men don’t generally get raped walking alone at night. Except that women don’t generally get raped walking alone at night either. While it does happen, 66-90% of women are raped by people they know and sometimes trust.
Jeffery took me to see Frozen it was so adorable. Also I’m really excited for next week because school is over and I can go to Jeff’s house after work everyday and fall asleep in his arms. I’m glad I have him. 😘